Leaders’ Weekend Teaching

Session 1 (John Singleton)

Proverbs 23:26 “My son, give me your heart and let your eyes delight in my ways”


  • We want to observe his ways and not get in the way.
  • God wants a partnership: a willing heart not a reluctant one.
  • Revelation of poverty of Spirit: we cannot do it on our own. It’s only through Christ who strengthens me.
  • It’s not about trying harder. It’s about seeking him afresh.

Longing vs disappointment: it’s about the ache of wanting to see the flavour of Christ on someone.

We are not here to help God out (example of the man who touched God’s ark to steady it and died because of it 2 Sam 6:7). When God calls doors open.



Habukkuk 2:1 “I will climb up to my watchtower and stand at my guardpost. There I will wait to see what the Lord says and how he will answer my complaint.”

John presented this question from Habakkuk 2:1.  The key point being how we respond to the question, even reproof that God was asking.   Is there anything God is asking you and if so, how might you respond?   

Session 2 (Terry King)

Genesis 26:15-22

“15 So all the wells that his father’s servants had dug in the time of his father Abraham, the Philistines stopped up, filling them with earth.

16 Then Abimelek said to Isaac, “Move away from us; you have become too powerful for us.”

17 So Isaac moved away from there and encamped in the Valley of Gerar, where he settled. 18 Isaac reopened the wells that had been dug in the time of his father Abraham, which the Philistines had stopped up after Abraham died, and he gave them the same names his father had given them.

19 Isaac’s servants dug in the valley and discovered a well of fresh water there. 20 But the herders of Gerar quarreled with those of Isaac and said, “The water is ours!” So he named the well Esek,a]”>[a] because they disputed with him. 21 Then they dug another well, but they quarreled over that one also; so he named it Sitnah.b]”>[b] 22 He moved on from there and dug another well, and no one quarreled over it. He named it Rehoboth,c]”>[c] saying, “Now the Lord has given us room and we will flourish in the land.”

Let’s start the wells! Some wells have been stopped, stuffed and closed by Covid.

This is a season to re-dig some wells:

. One well that was stuffed is worship. Some new songs are coming! Get ready to write.

. Another well that closed is mission: short mission teams will start again!

. Lift the shutters. We might have been trying too hard to give away – consider investing. It can be planted out either in the UK or overseas. Don’t put just a penny in the ground, but invest it into the kingdom. Release it to plant your values and who you are.

. Generational transfer

Invest in your young people. If you don’t invest in young people, you won’t have them for long. Don’t be alarmed if they leave and don’t come back; if we have invested in them, they carry our values with them. 

Colossians 1: 25-29 

“25 I have become its servant by the commission God gave me to present to you the word of God in its fullness— 26 the mystery that has been kept hidden for ages and generations, but is now disclosed to the Lord’s people. 27 To them God has chosen to make known among the Gentiles the glorious riches of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.

28 He is the one we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ. 29 To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me.”

Why is it we struggle to recognise Jesus within?

  • We struggle to really understand Chris in us, who works mightily
  • We live in both the spiritual and natural realm all the time
  • Bitterness will limit us (unforgiveness is not what the Bible teaches)
  • Fear causes us not to see – God will change us – fear of rejection is a powerful force. It causes us to pull each other down.
  • Jesus has no rental property: he either owns or he not there at all.

2 Corinthians 10: 3-5 battleground of the thoughts: it’s about taking captive those thoughts that try to crush us.

Romans 12:1-2. Give your body to God as a living sacrifice.  Let Jesus rule in us and let him change the way we think, it’s not so much about ‘who we’ll marry’ or ‘what job we’ll do’.

Romans 7:4-6 Repentance means turning around not being convicted and feeling bad for our sins. We don’t have to try harder. We do what we do as we are united with the one raised from the dead.  He changes us – our old nature is dead.

We are released from the law, no longer captive.

2 Corinthians 2:3-7 The veil has been torn. The gospel is veiled only to those who are perishing. When the jar was broken and Jesus’ feet were anointed with oil (Mark 14:3), he smelled like that for a while and so did Mary of Bethany’s hair! We want to smell like Jesus”

Session 3 (Jamie Singleton)

Habukkuk 2:1 “I will climb up to my watchtower and stand at my guardpost. There I will wait to see what the Lord says and how he will answer my complaint.”

Complicity in a culture that God wants to change.  Moving from looking for ‘behaviour change’ rather than leading people to Jesus for Him to change.

How does that happen?

  1. Warped image of God

God is not tutting at us.  He loves us and embraces us.

The former causes us to try hard not to disappoint.

  1. Keep clean

We think we know what to do to stay away from sin.  “I can fix myself”. That is not true. I need something bigger than me. I need Christ in me. We need to be dependent on him, confess our need, so he can change us.  It’s ok to say we’re not ok.

  1. Focus on ‘output’ over ‘outcome’

If we lead people to be more like Jesus – we might not always know.

We interpret behaviour rather than change within. We can put pressure on them because we believe it’s right. By doing this the result might be compliance rather than real change.

  1. Weaponise our disappointment.

My tears become about disappointment, rather than longing.  We don’t want our disappointment to influence our behaviour, accepting or rejecting people depending on how they respond to our leadership. We focus on performance, not living up to my expectations. God wants tot bring people to Him – to let Him transform them. 

What is my focus – leadership or management?

Disappointment = leaning/pressure on the individual.

Longing = leaning on God wanting him to breakthrough.

  1. Lack of proximity

So assume e.g. ‘he is in that role so he should……..’

  1. Compliant bias

We put a premium on expressing our values, but I have a bias with those who agree with what I’m saying.  Not compliant behaviour is more noticed and followed up than compliant behaviour. Should it be that way?

  1. Revert to structure

Because we are good at doing – we can make things happen.  Stewarding response – looking for God – managing our environment.

Inflating our role and deflating His.  We manage our people. God gives us something and we say ‘I’ll take over from here!”

I think my heart is right because I want the ‘best for that person’.  Yet it’s not!  Let God work – I can’t stop it’s impossible – God designed me to be a glove – He increases/I decrease

If God wants to change our culture – what culture does He want to shape instead?

When I let God do it ..

  • I let Him walk through me
  • I let Him change me
  • I let Him convict me

The future is bright but also messy!

I Kings Lucy Nov – we have our battles but God is bigger and can just do it beyond us.  We play the part He wants us to play and He does the rest.

Session 4 (Terry King)

John 14:24-26

“24 Anyone who does not love me will not obey my teaching. These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.

25 “All this I have spoken while still with you. 26 But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”


How do we represent the presence of God – living from the inside

  • Seed is both alive and dead

What must die?

  • Self-centredness
  • Tendency to self-preservation: protect/defend/promote (if I’m dead self-preservation doesn’t matter anymore)
  • Fear and all it produces in us

What remains

  • Spiritual gifts
  • Our calling
  • Freedom (we don’t have to try harder)
  • Fragrance (the smell of Jesus. Mary story)
  • His promises

Creativity is released when I work in partnership with God.

How is death administered?

2 Cor 4:8 afflicted but not crushed

  • When things go wrong, when we feel ‘crushed’ God urges us not to lose heart
  • We are decaying but our inward space is becoming more alive
  • The things seen are ethereal, those unseen are eternal

Jesus is our daily bread.

Session 5 (questions from the floor to Terry King)

Psalm 131

“1 My heart is not proud, Lord,
    my eyes are not haughty;
I do not concern myself with great matters
    or things too wonderful for me.
But I have calmed and quieted myself,
    I am like a weaned child with its mother;
    like a weaned child I am content.”

How to handle bad news: I accept that there are some questions I cannot answer and press into the God who cares for me.

Bitterness defined

  • Tendency to pull back not walk towards
  • Compare myself to them
  • If we hear someone else speak about them – do we defend/protect or fuel
  • Hard for you to compliment (when you hear others, you want to qualify)
  • Col 3:12 solution of bitterness is forgiveness.
  • Heb 12: 14-15 live at peace forgive.
  • Investing in the next generation is best when intentional. See their gifting, encourage that.  It’s not what I want it to look like.

Ask God what He wants – don’t allow our disciplines to become the habit.

Habbakuk 2 provocation.  Ask God what question He is asking you!

Session 6 (Terry King)

Revelations 3:20 “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.”

Upward call beyond where we have been.

The Kitchen

The Garden

The Tent

Mary & Martha

Mary chose the right thing.  We can be really busy – badge of honour.

Let’s not be too busy that we can’t do what God has for us.

Enjoy what He has given us to ‘work’ in. Find God in your business.

Find God’s presence in our recreation.

Enjoy Christ within while we’re relaxing.


Exodus 24 a place to abide, a place of intimacy.

Ex 19:8. The people said yes but then disobeyed

Ex 33.  God tells Moses to take the people to promised land.

V 33 God takes Himself out of their midst.  The people chose rules not relationship. (They let Moses go up even though they were invited)

God is standing before us saying do you want rules?

The safe place?

V 11 God spoke to Moses face to face as a friend.

That’s what God wants with us.  He wants to know us intimately

John 15:15: Because God loves us he prunes us. God calls us friends. He makes us fruitful by pruning. We are pruned so that our gifts can be developed.